Surviving the Holidays on Your Own

The holidays are difficult for some of us on a typical year- throw in Covid-19 and all bets are off! Life has drastically changed in a way that makes people long for another time. Maybe you have a large family and are concerned about so many people together and possibly spreading the virus, or you may be frustrated with government mandates in place. Are you lonely even when you are in a room full of people? Perhaps you are someone who will be spending Christmas alone, again. Whatever you are going through, here are a few things to keep in mind.

1. Take Care of Yourself!

Do something fun, special, or unusual. It can take your focus off of being alone and lift your spirits. Finish that book that’s been sitting on your shelf for the last year, binge-watch a show while staying in your pajamas all day, go on a hike or to the beach, or go out and get a massage.

2. Understand You Are Not Alone!

Even though you may be feeling alone right now, the holidays are a difficult time for so many others. Many people crave closer connections with friends or a better relationship. Take this time to reach out and call someone to see what they are doing. Try to plan a little get-together of your own.

3. Help Others!

You have so much to be grateful for, so doing something nice for others will remind you of all you have and fill you with gratitude. Find a local nonprofit and see how you can get connected. This relationship you build can last longer than just the holidays. You might even find yourself volunteering more often!

4. Check Your Expectations!

If your concept of life at the holidays comes from Hollywood, you could be setting yourself up for bitter disappointment. No family is perfect and each individual brings their own stress to gathering. If you don’t have that romantic partner or close family you feel is necessary to enjoy the holidays, adjust your thinking. Shift your focus to the great things you do have in your life. Maybe this year, you can go with a friend to a gathering rather than worrying about finding “the perfect date.”

If you find yourself struggling, reach out to someone, don’t isolate yourself. Spend time reminiscing on times gone by and things you will look forward to doing in the future. Write letters to those you can’t be with this year, and be sure to take time to enjoy life. You only get this one life, so make it count.

Please let us know if we can be of any help to you at all. We are here to support our community as we go through difficult times together. We can also connect you to outside resources.